There's little more beautiful, amazing, and electrifying than being around women who have something awaken deep inside them – a trip, a calling, an escapade. I have been pretty fortunate to have spent a lot of time with strong women – even raised by two who I would do anything for – women who have got their own dreams notwithstanding all of the crazy things they are fed incessantly by our society, battle anyway. They are entirely unique in a world that’s coach them to be like everything and everybody else. How awesome is that? Above all, women act as moment by moment integrity checkers for men, oracles even, and if you can surround yourself with a group of strong women, you’ll grow beyond belief, have your head lovingly cut off when you aren’t being the best man you really could be, and you will experience life itself and its vast variety of experiences. Like the ocean they change and shift by the second, intense feelings and thoughts swarm…let that help you find your solidity. They will test you with their darkest moods and feelings – only to have them feel that you are immovable, the mountain, always going to be there regardless of what and firm in your purpose. These are gifts, not hinderances. These strong relationships create you, but if you deflate – they’ll destroy you. Seek them out – don’t be at all intimidated women can move mountains. They are to surely be treasured.
The dynamics of my life in moving with feminine energy has changed nearly 180 degrees for plenty of reasons. But oh how I have shifted deep inside. In the course of my life, I highly identified with female energy because I had two extremely strong and dynamic women in my life – my sister and my mother – who are incredibly driven and proficient in what they do. I even had a female dog who was my best friend when I was little and really tended to gel with ladies better than I did with men. I took the best from my amazing dad too, equally as driven, considerate, creative and motivated and turned into a product of my environment and nurturing.
As I went through the turmoil of my younger years, I was “all that changes and shifts. ” My moods, my attitudes, my emotions, and thoughts…I have described it many times…were like a tornado inside me that declined to give up. Even if it did stop momentarily, back up it would storm again. Blend that with lacking deep purpose after my baseball career stopped and an enormous mess was made. So I crashed like the sea for a while…and at last found my way to writing.
But very recently this dynamic shifted religiously as the bubbling up of my purpose came to me and I started to read, understand, and practice what strong masculine energy essentially was. This has not only opened up my world, but has opened up the worlds of the men who live around me. There’s an idea that has entered into my mind that has stuck with me for months now, and it’s the idea of the mountain. That solidity – identifying with what doesn’t change in this world. The undoubtable stability of being completely grounded in your position, a mirror to life itself, empty and prepared to express your deepest passions and purpose – which is the expression of love itself.
When a man finally begins to understand this concept, I will tell you…mountains don’t just move in front of him…he becomes the mountain. Whatever happens around him swirls and yet he is fully calm, snug, and remains rooted in his deepest desire. To find your purpose is a great deal more than just what you do for work – it should be a direct leader in your life and will color your relationships, your friendships, your family dynamics, and how you show up in the world. It absolutely did for me. As quickly as this hit – bloom – unfold – open – closing the chasm – joy – honesty – integrity – perseverance through anything.
Women are the same as the sea. They shift, change, and adjust by the second. In just a second, a tranquil beautiful ocean can become a series of rogue waves. As a man, you are there in your miniscule rowboat wondering how the hell you’re going to climb up that wave before it crests. Women are life itself. They offer, literally, what it implies to be alive. Why do you actually think they call it Mother Nature? Everything that shifts around you is moving energy, a type of power that surely is uniquely female and can be accessed. But those waves for men who do not understand what it actually means to be the captain of their ship can be rocked directly out of the their little boat – I can not tell you how frequently I have been tossed out of my little boat or bailed before the wave hit. But give a open man a purpose, and that wave begins to appear like fun. Additionally, that wave can inspire your most important purpose.
This is the part that has changed my life completely.
Each day I sit comfortable down and write, I am totally driven by a type of energy that’s very different from anything that I have experienced before. I sit in my little chair outside on my porch…close my eyes, and breathe as deep down into my stomach as I can. I find that density – that solidity – that love – that emptiness. There’s this type of energy that if you focus on it deep enough, it is almost a low frequency lull…that is incredibly deep and powerful. A wavelength that has existed far before everybody and one that will undoubtedly be here forever after. I can feel it circulate through me infrequently when I am sitting on the mat. Then, I open and observe the things that are going on around me or start to run through the days events – using all the amazing things that changed – and get inspired by all of that energy. That energy runs straight through my writing – and yet, all at the exact same time, I’m here, fully grounded in my place – living as if I was dead.
Fear, in my heart, disappears.
There I solidly am grounded, in my deepest purpose, completely and totally electrified by the women around me and that female energy…creating, loving deeply, and open to all uncertainty. It’s this dynamic, the one between the male and the female – and my utilizing both – that really has taught me more than anything else. This has opened me up, changed my relationships, and helped me continue to discover parts of myself that I did not know existed. Floods of amazing people have showed up in my life and I can see all of it morphing, only to grasp that it’ll all change and pass…and that really is wonderfully O.K.
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website devoted to spreading positive high-quality content to those who need a little spark and motivation in their lives. In celebration of the amazing women in his life, he developed a post dedicated to strong women quotes to celebrate just how much we can learn from having women in our lives.