Ten year anniversaries of your birth date are always exciting and are a definite cause for celebration!
For some, this can be a great time for reflection and to look back at what you have achieved and how you have enjoyed your life so far. Some people can be a little daunted by this milestone as they fear that they may not have been as successful as they should and still further, wonder where they will be in 10 years time.
It’s important to take time to look at where we are in our life, and to take stock of our financial, emotional and personal goals. And sometimes the woman who is raising her family when she reaches the big four-oh may reflect a bit on her sex appeal and wonder whether she has still “got it!”
As we get older, we tend to be more philosophical. This is a consequence of being able to reflect on many of life’s rich experiences and in many cases knowing how to put these experiences into practice. Each decade milestone will find us in a very different place in our book of life and we will look back on our memories in a different way and look forward to what we have ahead of us with a fresh perspective. As such, considering whether you are sexy or not as a 40-something mum will undoubtedly unveil a whole list of different answers than it would if you were 30.
Things get better as we age, and as a 40-year-old mum, we are emotionally and mentally more secure and this by itself adds to our sexuality. Dignity comes naturally at this age and those elements of insecurity seem so far away.
We are much more composed, and know how to deal with any situation when it arises by displaying a sassy attitude, allowing us to feel inherently good about ourselves and to resolve problems with a lot more ease.
Thankfully, professional coaching solutions exist for mums at every stage of their life journey and can often help us to come to terms with our milestones. It’s important to understand what “sexy” means and most importantly of all, what it means to you.
Physically you will have a different appearance of course, but with your maturity you need to learn to trust yourself to make the most of your looks every day. Take a leaf from the page of those old screen heroines and present your best side to whatever camera approaches you. Emotionally and mentally, however it is likely that you are much sexier and more appealing for every year that you age.
Be secure in your status and believe in yourself and what you have achieved. Your children are a great reflection of you and you should be proud or both them and your partner. Remember that life is only really enjoyable when you truly love yourself, first and foremost. Seek out online life coaching experts if you feel a little overwhelmed when you are approaching or get to those special milestones that everyone makes such a big deal about!
Remember that life begins at 40 and when coaching for women in this position I often remind them that the biggest favour they can do themselves is to think and act “young.” Ask yourself this question – if you didn’t know what your actual age was, how old would you think you were? Hopefully the answer to this question isn’t “90″! Now, go strut your stuff, fabulous 40 mum!
Amanda Alexander is Director of Coaching Mums and a highly acclaimed ICF-accredited coach who delivers professional coaching programmes to working moms who yearn for success, balance and fulfilment. Are you a juggling mom? Download our free eBook for working moms that will give you 5 simple and instant ways to balance your life right now!
